In life, not just weddings, the worst thing you can ever do is stress. If you come across a problem, stress only exacerbates it and creates more problems. What differentiates successful people from others in any walk of life is their ability to cope with stress, to stay calm under pressure and deal with whatever problem faces them. This is why you should never stress in your relationship, or stress about your wedding. Ok, I admit, stress is unavoidable sometimes in life and this theory has never been truer than in the preparation, planning and build up to your wedding day. Let’s have a look at the effects of stress, why you shouldn’t do it and some tips to help you do this.
Medical science has proven over and over again that the biggest cause of sickness and illness in life is stress. Any type of change that causes physical, emotional or psychological strain can be defined as stress. I’m sure you are familiar with the natural animalistic instinct of ‘fight or flight’. This is the body’s response, triggered by stress, to potential threat or danger. When enduring this reaction, certain hormones like cortisol and adrenalin are released, which speed up the heart rate, slow digestion, push blood flow to major muscle groups, and even change various other nervous functions to give the body a burst of energy and strength. When the stress period is over and the perceived threat is gone, our bodies return to normal through the relaxation stage. The real health problems develop when we experience chronic stress, which is when the stress seems to be never ending, thus the body never gets to return to normal, causing damage to it.
If you take a minute to think about it, how much do you enjoy doing a thing when you’re stressing about it? The answer is not at all. You can’t physically, emotionally or mentally enjoy something when you are stressing over it, that’s a fact. Think of happy memories you hold. They may be holidays, parties, forming friendships or doing enjoyable things – all of which you will find were considerably stress free. From this alone you will see that the less stress you have in your life, the happier you will be. Therefore when it comes to your wedding day, the less stress you have the more you will be able to enjoy it. This is the same with your marriage. So as you can imagine, it’s in your every interest to avoid stress, and we have some advice on how to do that.
Dealing with stress is an internal thing, you don’t change the problem you’re looking at; you change how you’re looking at the problem. Imagine your problem is a deflated balloon fresh from the packet. Like the problem, the balloon is very small in size. Imagine the air that you blow into the balloon is stress. Like the balloon, the problem gets bigger the more you stress. So you start working to solve the problem, and you get stressed again, this time you blow even more air into the balloon, making it bigger and bigger. Suddenly the small balloon (problem) you started out with is much bigger as you’ve blown more air (stress) into it. If you start to make problems appear smaller by playing down their significance on the grand scale of life, you will find them much easier to deal with.